FORCE SHY KIDS
TELL SHY KIDS
THEY NEED TO PARTICIPATE MORE.
DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA
HOW HARD IT IS
FOR SOME STUDENTS
TO JUST RAISE THEIR HANDS?
FORCING THEM INTO GROUP PROJECTS
AND MAKING THEM TALK
DOES NOT “TEACH THEM TO BE SOCIAL AND DEVELOP INTO WELL-ROUNDED INDIVIDUALS”
IT SCARED THE SHIT OUT OF THEM.
AND MAKES THEM HATE SCHOOL.
THERE IS NO REASON TO REQUIRE A PARTICIPATION GRADE.
IF I’M MAKING 90′S ON ALL MY TESTS/QUIZZES
IT MEANS I KNOW THE DAMN MATERIAL YOU TAUGHT
UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCE SHOULD YOU LOWER MY GRADE 10% JUST BECAUSE I DIDN’T TALK ENOUGH.
I SWEAR IF I GET ANOTHER “B” IN A CLASS THAT I EXCELLED IN JUST BECAUSE I DIDNT FEEL LIKE RAISING MY HAND TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS
I MIGHT ACTUALLY KILL U
I may not be shy but I agree with you 100% about the whole participation part !
*SLAMS REBLOG BUTTON*
SERIOUSLY THIS IS AN ACTUAL FUGKIBG PROBLEM
over here, in Germany, participation is 2/3 of the grade, everything you write only counts for 1/3. I’ve always had As in written exams, but teachers thought it fair to give me Cs and Ds, just because I didn’t raise my hand often enough. (I did reply tho when asked directly.)
And other students who *beeped* up written exams but blabbered all lesson long (not even IN topic) got better grades than me.
This speaks to me on a spiritual level.
Also, don’t force the shy kid into a group project with the popular kids. They’ll only be humiliated by the popular kids, which will have the opposite effect of what you want.
AND I STG DO NOT
*popular kid is being loud and obnoxious*
*sits loud and obnoxious kid next to quiet and shy kid*
A) a shy person shouldn’t be a punishment
B) it’s more of a punishment for the shy kid than the loud mouth
C) how about you send the kid outside or put him alone rather than allowing a student to distract other students and make them feel uncomfortable
plus, FUCKING DO SOMETHING WHEN SOMEONE IS BULLIED!
*DEMOLISHES THE REBLOG BUTTON*
Please! I swear! Teachers, learn from this! My sister has selective mutism (which means if she doesn’t talk much in public. If she doesn’t talk to you, don’t get offended. She didn’t talk to our aunt until she was six. She says she wants to talk to people, but it feels like the words get stuck in her throat) and school got so bad, my mother took her out of public school and started homeschooling her. Teachers, please, do not force shy, quiet kids to talk. It makes their shyness/quietness worse.
Can I just say though this is terrible during school it is an important skill to have in most careers because many employers may fire someone who does not interact with them at all
For those of you who aren’t shy and want to help:
As a natural chatterbox with zero problem talking in class, my method was to talk to the shy students one-on-one in the caf, around campus, wherever, and get a few comments and ideas from everyone I could, and then pepper them into my class discussions “I want to bring up X, because Jane mentioned in a discussion that Y, which ties into that thing John said the other day about Z…”
This will occasionally backfire and inspire the prof to ask John or Jane to expand on their idea, and you’ll have to smooth it over and divert the prof’s attention back off them, but 95% of the time it just gives the prof the vague sense that John and Jane were contributing. I initially started doing it for shy friends, and their participation scores shot up, so I expanded it.
“Can I just say though this is terrible during school it is an important skill to have in most careers because many employers may fire someone who does not interact with them at all”
Exactly. Capitalism is a pile of shit.
“Wait a second. You’re how old? And you don’t know X?”
“Wait a minute. You’re from where? And you’ve never heard of Y?”
“You’ve got to be kidding me. You’ve studied Y and you don’t know Z?”
It’s easy to feel shocked, or disappointed, or resentful, or self-righteously astonished when people don’t exhibit the qualities we believe they should’ve already mastered by now.
It’s easy, but it’s also unproductive.
Plainly put, you can’t go from point A to point B until you get over the fact that point A is where you are. And you can’t inspire others to make changes if you insist on condemning them for the mere fact that changes are needed.
Every parent and teacher of disabled or twice-exceptional children should read this, as well as every activist.
I was given 52 detentions for suspected cheating, almost suspended for it. The principal called me to his office, made some cheesy annoying statement about how this kind of behavior wouldn’t be tolerated.
Okay, I said. I’m sorry, it won’t happen again. It was a mistake.
Already that year I knew three people who were out longterm for mental illness. Already kids were high in classes just to get by them. Already what was tolerated was a bunch of kids having breakdowns.
It was a mistake it won’t happen again. I make sure that my answers are big on the science test. The boy next to me can’t afford medication for his learning disability and hasn’t slept since his parents split and if he doesn’t get a 2.0 he loses his team, the last thing he has left.
It was a mistake it won’t happen again. When I pass her my homework I ask her quietly if her mom was getting better. When the semester ends and we are in different classes, I start doing her assignments on the side. She sends me snaps from chemotherapy.
It was a mistake it won’t happen again. When I hand over the notes, I make sure there’s plenty of marginal positive thoughts. They haven’t smiled all month. I know what it’s like to be too tired and doing nothing at all.
It was a mistake. Your students are resorting to immoral choices because they have no other option. You make grades the be-all and end-all priority, no matter what else might be happening. You force them into situations where they can either fail and definitely have a permanent punishment, or cheat and probably pass – it’s worth the risk. Your students stand in solidarity, not to praise the might of learning: but to gather together in the right of living. You are the one who made the dichotomy of student/human. We are not both, are given “either like it or leave it”, are trained almost like robots. Do the work, don’t ask questions, don’t challenge the authority.
It was a mistake. It won’t happen again where you can see it. But I love learning. And if I can be the one who keeps your student in the classroom by giving them that extra push? Maybe I’m doing a better job than you. Cheating wouldn’t be a problem if we weren’t already being cheated. You can’t set us up to lose and then get frustrated when we rig the game, too.
Maybe not in this case, but most of the time when my students are like this, it’s all been built up in their heads.
Student faces a challenging personal situation. Student does not tell teacher. Student misses school, doesn’t complete work (for whatever reason) and then bitches silently about it, claiming that teachers are unfair and “don’t even know what’s going on”.
Then tell me what’s going on.
They think I’m being hard on them, picking on them etc. No, I’m doing my job. But if you’re having a difficult time and would appreciate some understanding then fuck, just tell me that. You don’t have to disclose details. If I’m just aware there’s a problem then I can be understanding and figure out ways to get work from you in a way that benefits both of us.
Stop vilifying teachers. We are people too. Don’t you think we do the same thing in our own lives?
tldr; Everybody has problems. Learn to express that you’re struggling and decent people will understand.
i am a teacher, this a story from my past.
you are being hard on them. you know why? because it’s our job to figure out something is wrong. a student often doesn’t have the words, doesn’t have the strength, feels like we wouldn’t care anyway. we are the adults.
are you joking me with this? students are told that the only thing that matters is their grades. do you know how many teachers don’t care? to the extent that i once had a teacher tell me that missing class for a funeral was going to hurt my gpa. “decent people” are rare. “decent people” don’t happen in public schools very often at all.
i didn’t trust anyone to know about my mental illness. i saw what happened to my friends. pointless counselor visits. some were expelled because they were a “danger to themselves.” in my grade of 150, in one year, seventeen of my peers had killed themselves. because of teachers who think it’s the responsibility of teenagers to be able to maturely express a serious problem that adults struggle to convey.
i’ll vilify the hell out of teachers. because you know what? to many kids, we are the villain. we push them to do terrible things to themselves all in the name of a state standards. i’m guessing at some point you’ve seen maslow’s hierarchy of needs? did you read it? kids – people – cannot function without basic needs. like eating, like a safe home, like the things i mentioned above.
you’re the teacher. yet you just expect students to magically “learn to express” something they shouldn’t have to. you should already know.
teachers can break students. and if you’re the teacher who is hard on them, who ignores their problems? you’re not someone i feel comfortable approaching the desk of.
I’m tricking my students into writing a research paper by having them write an open letter and then strengthen their argument by adding evidence. They were allowed to write about anything they wanted for the first draft of their open letter, and one of my 10th grade boys decided he wanted to write about girls who only like bands because the members are cute and don’t really care about the music.
I let him do it because I’ve found that shutting down a student’s idea at the first draft stage tends to make them more obstinate about the topic. I figured we’d get to the evidence-gathering stage, he wouldn’t be able to find scholarly sources and he would change his topic.
Well lo and behold, today he comes into class and tells me he’s changing his topic. Apparently, he couldn’t find any evidence and he figured he was being kind of hypocritical because he gets really excited about athletes he doesn’t even know and the only reason that’s different than fangirls is because it’s him. He actually told me that he realized that writing that first letter would be pretty condescending. He’s going to write about LGBT rights instead.
This next generation, y’all. There’s some good stuff happening.
EXCELLENT TEACHING METHOD A++++